The problem is we were comparing our worlds, and we should not have been. It is hard to get a good picture of a situation when both sides are steeped in anger. [this is why he hates feelings! they get in the way of logic and rationality!! what a cliche.]

It is good to think, even if you come to the same conclusions. Blind acceptance can be damaging. [is he speaking from experience?? maybe.] I do like to imagine most people start out with intentions to protect something, but we do get distracted along the way, especially the longer we are in.